a blog, a journey, a story....life as a married grad student
Sunday, May 1, 2011
Sabbath
This weekend I went on a ladies retreat w/ Gayla and the ladies of Willis. It was really nice, the focus being on uber-business. Ummm....yes! Haha, I actually took away a lot of good stuff from it and want to set some new goals.
The first thing I really took away was how controlling I am with somethings, to the point that I have had a lot of trouble praying about it because I don't want to give up the control and trust that God will put me where s/he wants me. Specifically, I have had this mental block with praying about finding a job. Maybe its fear or lack of trust that God will want me in a place I am unwilling to go, but my gifts may be needed. So my first goal was to pray everyday that God would give me the desire and trust to go where he wants me.
The second thing I really appreciated was the focus on intentional rest, solitude, and sabbath. I LOVE Sundays where we go to church, have a long lunch, take a nap and a bike ride and generally just play and rest. Like so many things....there is always a *however* and I'd really like to spend more time on Sundays, if not the whole day than most of the day, intentionally resting and NOT WORKING. Doesn't that sound wonderful?
Along with sabbath, comes the discipline of simplicity- something I've been striving for and kind of hitting and missing for a long time. If you've been following, I've really been wanting to fix more budget friendly meals at home that don't take a million years, and we have really been working on it, but I know there is more we can do. Some possible ideas: eating simply when too tired to cook like sandwhiches/canned soup instead of getting fastfood, less meat/gourmet items (stickler for fun stuff) which would mean more meatless meals hmm..., less nonessentials. I feel like a lot of our grocery bill is stuff we don't really need- likes cokes and candy which are tasty but not necessary.
I also find that I check my email a LOT, especially at night. I would like to reduce the amount of time in the evening I spend on the computer-kind of ironic since its past midnight and here I am blogging :) But, it has been found to cause stress and reduce sleep right before bed, so shutting down earlier would be great. I know I can't every night, that is too lofty a goal. But I will be taking a break on nights that I don't really have a lot of work to do, or doing it earlier.
Annnd....stuff! Greg and I live in a really small house, so its not like we can comfortably own a lot of stuff- it gets too crowded. Maybe the time is about ripe for me to sell/give/throw away some clothes and shoes. I say throw away b/c I literally have some shoes that I have about worn out with holes in the bottom and sides. Although if I threw them out now I'd have to get some more workout shoes...hmm. After a year of working with CIS, and sorting through piles of donated clothes (some good, some horrible) I am not opposed to retiring items for good. I love recycling and reusing things, but at some point it is time to say goodbye forever and just throw it out, and thats OK. (Sidebar: if you do donate to someone in need, like a homeless student or goodwill, keep in mind that if you don't want your old holey, stained, item, they might not either!! How about donating something gently used and scrapping the rest? Or, if it is for a charity event that touches your heart, give away something you really like that you've taken care of or something brand new! Just some perspectives.)
And with that, its time for me to shut down and go to bed. Happy Sunday!
Sunday, April 3, 2011
A storms a brewin!
Confession to make- I feel super cranky! Ok, just had to get that out there. Maybe its just time to get away from all the extra noise. Noisy tv, dryer, NEIGHBORS...ugh. I am looking forward to finding some respite and solitude, just not sure when or where but I sure do need it.
Besides the sudden surge of irritability, its been a pretty pleasant weekend. Got rid of my old desk and bookshelf on thursday evening. I'm trying to de-clutter our tiny house and move some pieces of furniture around to get it all fung she-y. Also trying to make room for a small china hutch, which I have been on the prowl for. So yes, went to an estate sale and an antique shop yesterday but I didn't fall in love with anything I'd spend $50 over so yeeeaaaah...still looking. Also went to zumba toning and just about died. it was awesome. followed by a swim in my new swimsuit! BTW, if your looking for a good suit, for actual swimming, not just lying by the pool and tanning, Academy has some pretty good ones. I got a nike two piece with very specific requirements (not a tied one, shorts, long top) and I LOVE it. And yes, I do look very cute in it. I felt very justified after so much exercise in the brownie and coconut ice cream enjoyed later :)
Other news, one of my new years resolutions was to cook more budget-friendly meals at home that weren't super complicated and didn't take a million years and a whole bunch of dishes. I think I may have found the golden key (or something mystical and magical like that). My sister-in-law Shelley (who is awesome, and wonderful, and I love her to death) introduced me to e-mealz. Its this website that you can sign up for and every week it will give you five meals, directions, and a shopping list. It will also tell you how much everything costs on the shopping list!! Its really cool, and a weeks worth of groceries usually cost about $30-$40. Also awesome, you can PICK what kind of list you want, and there are tons to choose from! You could do 2 people to 4 people, go by store (me and Greg do the Wal Mart one since we shop there most), or by dietary needs- low carb, low fat, gluten free, weight watchers, etc. It. Is. Awesome! I went with the wal mart meals for 2 people b/c it suited me and Greg best, and so far everything I made from the list is delicious and, I am fairly certain Greg could handle all on his own. I didn't get a special dietary one- though there were many too choose from, b/c Greg might be sad, but I did look at some of the sample ones and those looked really good too. Some of the meals on the 2 ppl/wal mart list aren't exactly the healthiest choices, which is probably why they taste pretty good, but most are just balanced regular meals. Another great thing about them is the portion sizes are about perfect for two people who are not very good about eating leftovers- though I haven't really made any of the sides, which are usually veggies are bread. Last week I tried out the tator tot casserole (I know, sometimes we eat like little kids) and it was delicious! Also on the list is mexican meatloaf, broccoli and cheese soup, and monte cristos. Very excited about this, and hoping that our food expenditures reflect it.
Really looking forward to my day off tomorrow, even though I will likely be grading papers and making revisions on my thesis. And tuesday....hot stone massage. Oh yes, be jealous ;)
Friday, April 1, 2011
Surely knowledge and weight are positively coorelated
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
It's all gravy, baby
Friday, March 25, 2011
Ch-ch-changes!
Monday night, at about 3 am, I completed my thesis. Except of course, what Dr. Paris pointed out that most of us forgot- an abstract. Whoops, guess I'll be adding another page. Which, I'd rather not. Right now it is 50 pages, such a nice even beautiful number. 51 is just....bleh.
Anyways, so late late monday finally finished, reproofed for sleep-deprived errors the next afternoon and sent on to committee. I didn't quite get it in as early as I would have liked, but at this point I'm happy to have made the progress I did.
My oral defense is monday. I keep going back and forth between being so nervous I feel like throwing up, to feeling like its going to be a great experience thats not a huge deal.
Other things on the horizon....for quite a while I've been thinking about my next degree. Ok, I know that sounds pretentious, but I made it this far and before I did grad school I didn't know if I'd be smart enough for grad school. Turns out I do pretty good in grad school, by that I mean I understand the content, get good grades, and enjoy learning. Pursuing a doctorate has always been a secret ambition of mine....Doesn't Dr. Whitney or (to use my maiden nickname) Dr. Love, sound good?
So here's my ten-ish year plan. I'd like to eventually pursue a PhD. I've been encouraged to also/instead pursue a clinical degree, but if I do that I would still like to go on to a PhD program. The end goal here is to get a PhD oneday regardless. Here's my steps...and complications:
Step 1. Start looking for jobs that would support me as a PhD candidate in two years (have to work in the social work field first)
Step 2. Begin applying to PhD programs
Step 3. Work full time, take the least hours possible to complete PhD program (so will take a few years)
Sounds pretty reasonable, right? Here's my complication: babies babies everywhere!! Its like they're following me around, and they're just so darn cute! I must be getting paranoid, I'm pretty sure babies single me out at walmart to smile and wave at. Its like they're saying, "don't you want me? I'm so cute and lovable! Have one of me right now!" AHHHHH, its like a cute fuzzy nightmare. I love kids, and I'm so happy (and a bit jealous) of my friends who are having babies and are at a place in their life where they can do that. However, I've never had a "real" job besides internships, I have *gulp* as of today $62,000 in loans to pay back and I really want to achieve a doctorate degree. Logically, I know that right now its not a good idea with all of my student debt (not to mention Greg's) and the fact that I need to get my feet wet in the professional world. But also, there is something really big I at least want to start on first, and I don't want to put myself in a position where I must choose how to balance school/work/child...I've seen some people do it, and these people are just amazing, but I'd rather take the easy road.
That said, the temptation to have a million cute little Greg's is overwhelming, but not entirely plausible right now. I'm feeling pretty selfish about wanting to go on further in school, and don't think I'm willing to sacrifice on that unless I have to. I realize I haven't mentioned Greg's views during this tirade, and thats b/c he is deathly terrified of changing diapers.
In other news, I really need to go out and plant something. Garden plans to come!
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Twenty Five
1. I was in Sing Song. Go Mario.
2. Thesis.
3. No wait...thats it.
So I've been a busy busy bee trying to write this paper/collect data/analyze data and I am no where near done. I haven't even gotten all my surveys back and the whole thing in its entiriety is due monday to my committee!!! (Yanks out big chunk of hair). As you all who read this can imagine, high stress situation, especially since I don't know ditally squat about statistics and will be running several statisticy-thingy tests on my data. Inhale...exhale.
Suffice it to say, when I went for my yearly ladies check-up, my blood pressure turned out to be really high for someone who had been sitting at a desk for most of the day shuffling paperwork around and pretty easy day. (I'll mention here, that I'm 25 and though I'd like to see the number drop, considered medically to be at a healthy weight for my height). So unless I can bring it down to a nice low, normal number, I will not be able to refill my meds which means....a chance of babies. My doctor explained the high risk of stroke from this situation, and so I was given a choice between lowering my blood pressure or being at risk for having babies and strokes. Hmm...I think I will lower my blood pressure!!
I imagine the big scary number was due in large part to stress. No surprises there. But, I also suspect that some bad habits that have formed during grad school could also be major contributers. I try to eat healthy most of the day- I really do, like oatmeal or cereal and fruit for breakfast, skim milk, whole grains etc. And something light and non-greasy for lunch. But its dinner that always gets me. I'm just floored when I get home, and I am not a creative cook who just whips together any thing thats in the cabinet. If I don't have an idea and the tools, its just not happening. I don't think I've used many fresh ingrediants this year- just because it takes a lot of preparation and generally a good deal of cleanup. Not a fan, its too time consuming. So, if we eat dinner at home its lately been coming straight from the freezer or the chili can. Otherwise, its off to burger king or taco bueno, and as discussed in many earlier posts, i like fast food a lot and these places and just cheap, easy, and convenient.
I've also been slacking on my exercise. I LOVE zumba- but after getting sick, and sing song I just got so behind on everything, I don't feel as though I have the time or energy to spare. Maybe a logical fallacy on my part, but I am more tired after working out even though its kind of a good, relaxed, sleep better tired. Thats just how my body has been lately-some people feel energized for the rest of the day, I need a nap.
So thats where I am at right now, and honestly I am a little worried. So what does the researched do when a problem arises? Research!
I am going to keep a log (as ordered by my doctor) of my daily blood pressure for the next month. During this time, I will be trying to cut out fried, fast foods, sweets, and cutting back on caffeine (sidebar here: I looked at several studies about the coorelation between caffeine and stroke, some said it reduced the risk, some said it increased it. To play it safe, it may be best to partake in moderation). Also, I will be trying my darndest to reduce stress. There is only so much I can do about that....remember that whole thesis and grad student thing. But, I have the option of saying "no" to activities that are stressful for me. I can't skip too much work or class, but social events, volunteer activities (yes, i still do some of those too!), and unnecessary chores are all out. I may recieve some criticism for this, but I may skip out on some church. Let me explain why....Greg and I go to Highland, and its all good. But getting up on a Sunday, rushing to make it on time, trying to find a seat (yup, that crowded), and meeting new people is in fact a major stressor in my week. So, for a while, I will be podcasting in. Next step, exercise! Zumba, and some yoga to relax.
Well, lets fold our hands and pray this works!
Monday, January 17, 2011
Birthday Wishes
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Sweet and Sour Shrimp
Dinner tonight: Sweet and Sour Shrimp w/ brown rice.
The verdict: Yum-O! This was my first time to cook shrimp and while I was a bit nervous about buying fresh shrimp and cooking it, it was actually really really easy! Thanks HEB for having an excellent fresh seafood department.
Positives: delicious, only 3 points (plus however many for the rice), very filling, surprisingly easy to make, not too many ingredients, cooks up very quickly
Not-so-positives: makes quite a few dishes- skillet, rice maker, mixing bowl, cutting board, fresh shrimp is a bit pricey ($5.30 for 3/4 lbs) but overall not too expensive since it did make 4 servings, also shrimp is high in cholesteral so not a dish for those who have doctor's order to watch their LDL levels.
Soo, definitely going to make again, a winner! It's nice to know whats going into my food and how its prepared. I generally don't worry too much, but now that I'm thinking a bit more about health its nice to be aware of whats going into my body and what kind of effects it has. For instance, I used to think taco beuno was not too unhealthy. Beans are good for you right? Then I did a bit of research, and...their beans are jam packed with calories and fat! I guess refried beans should have been my first clue, but I really thought that they were a good choice when in actuality, a taco seems to be a better choice. Or better yet, the taco soup, which is quite tasty.
So, first steps in this long journey...learning to make good choices! Allow me to tell you a bit about some not so healthy choices this week, which seemed like good ideas at the time b/c I was hungry and tired! Monday, had a meeting with a professor and got out at 3, and was pretty hungry when I got out. I stopped at wallyworld to get some gas (first time I've pumped my own gas in my honda, btw) and lo' and behold, taco casa with 69 cent tacos! I got a taco and a burrito for just $1.50, which filled me up but was literally dripping in grease. I can't believe I've forgotten that taco casa is a greasy spoon, was high school really that long ago? Anywho, felt pretty blah after that. Today was more of the same. I felt lazy and pretty unmotivated to fix anything and hey! Fried chicken sounds great. So got a snack pack at Chicken X and again with the selective memory. Oh well, tomorrow is a new day :)
Sunday, January 2, 2011
3 stars for sausage and bean soup
Saute 6 oz. of sliced turkey sausage until browned, then saute 1 chopped bell pepper. Add one and a half cup chicken (I used beef) low sodium broth and bring to a boil. Lower temperate, add a 15 oz. can of black beans that have been drained and rinsed and 1/4 cup of salsa (I used rotel tomatoes and chiles, since thats what I had). Cover and simmer for 5 minutes, makes 4 one cup servings, 2 points each.
The Positives: low point value, easy to make, takes less than 15 minutes with little clean up, and is cheap.
The not-so-Positives: bland, it definitely needed some seasoning, or at the very least a jalepeno pepper. Also not very filling, I had a serving with half a grilled cheese sandwhich and an orange (7 points all together) and I felt hungry again soon after.
I don't know if I'll be making this again, unless I make some major modifications, like more seasoning and heat.
Also on the menu today: banana and coffee for breakfast, lunch above, flaxseed waffle w/ tbsp of peanut butter and nutella for after workout snack w/ skim milk, pizza rolls and baked cheetos for dinner, ww ice cream bar for dessert, and a bowl of peaches, mango, pineapple, stawberry, and blueberry for snack.
Overall, I think I did pretty well for the day, worked out, had 3 servings of fruit, and 1-2 servings of veggies (really good for me!). Still waiting on my ww book, I am hopeful it will come tomorrow!
Saturday, January 1, 2011
Welcome 2011!!
We had lunch w/ Greg's family today (minus Chris, who was out of town), ate my black-eyed peas so I'll have a good year! Also had some great fresh pineapple and strawberries (w/ shortcake tehe) at lunch. Had taco beuno for dinner- a muchaco w/ some fresh avocado slices and a cheesecake chimichanga. We went and saw Voyage of the Dawn Treader- by far the best Narnia movie, absolutely love it! I can't actually remember much of the book, except it was my favorite when I read them several years ago. Maybe after grad school I'll read the series again.
Isn't fruit magnificant? I just ate an orange (instead of a biscotti, I might add) and I just marveled at how wonderful God's creation is. And yummy too.
Yesterday Greg and I braved the crowds and went grocery shopping at HEB. One of my new year's resolutions (among losing weight) is to cook healthy and budget friendly meals. I still haven't gotten my weight watcher book, but I have gotten two cookbooks so Greg and I perused them and picked out several recipes for this week. Heres whats on the menu....
1. Sweet and sour shrimp w/ rice (4 servings, so enough for leftovers since Greg doesn't eat shrimp, he'll substitute chicken)
2. Tex-mex pepper steak w/ rice
3. Tuscan chicken and beans w/ garlic bread (spaghetti on the side for Greg, the chicken dish is not very caloric)
4. Onion minestra w/ garlic bread (sloppy joe or leftovers on the side for Greg)
5. Sausage and black bean soup w/ quesadillas
I feel like we're going to be cooking two dinners on some nights, since some of the dishes aren't things that Greg likes or enough to fill him up. He is trying to gain one pound a week, and needs about 3000-3500 calories a day. Hopefully we can settle on a few dishes that suit both are needs, are cheap, and don't take a million ingredients or dishes to make. I like to get in and get out of the kitchen on most nights very quickly, though I do enjoy cooking a big fresh meal occasionally. I just want a simple menu that can be interchanged so that we can easily prepare meals w/o a lot of waste. Some recipes I try are not very practical. For instance, I love Rachel Ray and have two of her recipe books. But, a lot of her stuff calls for quite a bit of fresh ingredients, which I like, but it can be pricey and we can never finish it all so quite a bit goes to waste. I've given up on buying fresh herbs, and try to avoid recipes that call for condiments I don't typically use. I've also switched to buying frozen chicken, and defrosting it in the fridge as we need it. I also gave up on baking/buying desserts (I know, big surprise since I have such a sweet tooth!) b/c we never finish more than a quarter of it. I do keep our freezer fairly stocked w/ frozen treats though.
Speaking of frozen treats, I bought these weight watcher ice cream candy bars and they are delicious!!! They are 3 points, and taste better than a snickers! I had to exercise great control to only eat one yesterday by reminding myself that a "diet" dessert isn't "diet" when you eat 5!
List for tomorrow: weight training workout in the morning, church, lunch, tend to the yard, applications for professionals abroad, informed consent for IRB. Ready.....break!